Crying again

I thought I was finally past the crying, but right now I have tears pouring down my cheeks. It not just missing Sonya it is also the fear I am going to lose Clara from my life too or that I will not be able to protect her.

I don’t even know if Clara wants me in her life. I just know I love her like she is my own daughter and I need to be her advocate and protector. I could not protect her mom I need to protect Clara.


I just got home from the funeral, and I really don’t have the ability to write anything right now. I will just say that I was amazed by the number of people who came and that this was the worst night of my life.

I love you My Little Butterfly and I know you know how much I love Clara. I will always be there for her; I will be her advocate and protector until I die and beyond if I can. Tonya, Sasha, Maria, and I will keep her safe and help guide her to the wonderful future she will have. We will all miss you.


I just finished writing my eulogy for my best friend. I am going to miss you more than words could ever explain. Sonya I know you are watch down on us. Just know Clara will be safe with all of us.

I will never understand why God would take someone so young. I will never understand why God would take someone so sweet and kind. I am really going to miss you, Sonya. I don’t know if the impact that you made on my life can even be calculated. You made me a better man. You made me the happiest I have ever been. I Will ALWAYS LOVE YOU. I WILL ALWAYS LOVE CLARA. I know someday I will see you again. Heaven has gained another angel. I will miss you My Little Butterfly.

Clara’s Mother’s Day Show 2012

Update: I had not planned on post the text of the eulogy, but I have had a few of her friends and co-workers ask to read it. The link below is to a written version of the eulogy. I was extremely emotional that night and did not follow my notes as written.

Eulogy of Sofia DeSandro

GoFundMe for Clara

Last week my best friend, Sofia (Sonya) DeSandro died tragically while visiting Orlando, Florida. She was only 38 years old and a loving mother, wife, and friend to many. She was kindhearted and always there for others who needed a little help.

She leaves behind an amazing 15-year-old daughter. Please consider helping me raise money for Clara.

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Writing Sofia’s Obituary

At this moment I am visually shaking, and I can’t stop crying. Last week my best friend, who I loved more than anything in the world, was tragically lost. She was only 38 years old and had a major impact on the lives of so many. A few moments ago, I finished and submitted her Obituary to the funeral home.

Trying to put in words just a small part of Sofia’s story and the feeling of all of us who loved her was the most difficult thing I have done in my life.

UPDATE: The Obituary is now live on the internet.

Obituary of Sofia B DeSandro of Mundelein, Illinois